Tuesday, 26 April 2016

Elements Explained – The Extra Touch

Ring Warming – rings are placed in a bag and handed around the guests. Each guest holds the bag for a few seconds and makes a silent wish for the couples future, before passing it on to the next guest.

Love Box – box containing the couple’s favourite drink. Each partner writes a letter saying why they fell in love with the other person, nobody else sees it, the letter has previously been put in an envelope and sealed. The two letters are put in the box and not opened until an agreed anniversary unless the couple fall on hard times and need to remind themselves why they fell in love with their partner.

First Kiss Last Kiss – this one is for the Mothers! Both Mothers come to the front and kiss their child, this symbolises the first kiss from when you are a baby to now the last kiss as a single adult.

Jumping the Broom – an ancient tradition. The bride and groom stand together, the groom holds the broom and sweeps behind him to get rid of any negativity in the past and then he sweeps in front to clear the path of obstacles for the couple. The best men/bridesmaids then hold the broom on the ground and everyone counts 1, 2, 3 then the bride and groom jump over the broom into their new life together.  

Handfasting  “Tying the Knot” – in ancient times couples were tied together for a year and a day to see if they were a good match, thank goodness we don’t practice that now! The couple put their arms together so that the pulse on the wrist is touching the other person’s pulse. Beautiful coloured ribbons symbolising different elements life health, fertility and prospertiy are laid on the couple’s arms before the final cord binds them together. The promises will be bound whilst love lasts.

Unity Candle a member from each family comes to the front. They light a small candle then join the lit candle  onto a large one in the middle. This is to symbolise 2 individuals become 1 family.

Unity Sands – good way to involve all the guests. Coloured sands that symbolise different elements are poured into a container. Not only does this provide a beautiful keepsake, it means that individual grains are together as one never to be parted.

Breaking the Glass – completed at the end of the ceremony, a wine glass is wrapped in a napkin, put on the ground and then smashed. This is to interpret that life is as fragile as glass and should be lived to the full every day.

Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Frequently Asked Questions

Frequently Asked Questions
This guide should answer some of the most popular questions that I get asked.  However, if you need more information I am only a phone call or email away.
What does a celebrant do?
Family celebrants are professionally trained to design, write and perform your ceremony. I will work together with you to find out what you want to include and what you don’t want. From this I will write a ceremony for you that is tailored to your needs. My role is to ensure that your ceremony is exactly what you want; there are no restrictions.
Qualified? I am accredited to provide weddings, vow renewals and baby naming ceremonies by the UK Society of Celebrants.
Where can I have my ceremony? You can have your ceremony wherever you want, it doesn’t have to be a registered venue. Village hall, woods, beach, favourite hotel the list is endless…….
Is my marriage legal? To make your marriage legal you will need to make an appointment at your local registrar office. Ask for a marriage licence, this usually costs about £46, you will need identification papers and two witnesses. You can book this service up to to 12 months before your ceremony. Do not be pushed into larger more costly ceremonies – YOU DON’T NEED IT! My clients usually get the “legal” part done quietly, quickly and in casual dress in the week before your ceremony. 
What happens?  Once you are happy with your choice of celebrant a booking form is completed and £50 no-refundable deposit is asked for to hold the date. The ceremony will then be designed using all the information and choices that you have given. A draft ceremony will be given to you to make sure you are happy.  After details are finalised it is usual to have a rehearsal to make sure that everyone feels relaxed on the day (please note the final balance must be paid for before the rehearsal). I will liaise with venue staff and perform your wedding; afterwards I will give you a presentation copy. Then it’s time to celebrate with your family and friends!
You are based in Suffolk but will you travel? I live in Suffolk but am willing to travel. Travel costs are arranged at the time of booking.
Can I have what I want? Yes, my motto is “anytime, anyplace, anywhere”. Religious ceremonies and registrars tend to have strict views about what is allowed to be included. The beauty of having a civil celebrant means that you can truly have what you want.
Is it ok for my dog to have a role in the ceremony?   Yes, I want you to have the day you have dreamed of so if you want to have your pet as a ring bearer that is fine with me (rather not I nclude snakes though!)
Can I have prayers included?. You may like to have a cultural custom observed or include other practices as part of your ceremony. The choice is yours. 
How much does it cost? My professional fee for weddings is £350, £275 for Vow Renewals and £125 for a baby naming (non-religious alternative to a christening). Ceremony elements are additional and prices will be quoted to you before purchase. If you would like a themed wedding
Do you have insurance? Yes I have £5m public liability insurance and I am happy to provide a copy of the certificate to your venue if required.
How do I make a booking? – Please contact me directly by phone 07926 071065 or email ipswichcelebrant@gmail.com We can arrange to meet to talk further about your ceremony.